Hiwalayan

Dear Ate Emz,

My name is Jelai teenager pa po ako. 19 and soon will be turning 20.

Anyway. Just an observation sa mga issues lately about hiwalayan. A lot of teenagers are affected and I don’t get it as if they are a part of these celebrity’s life. Maybe daghan lang gyud siguro ilang fans or followers. This is the danger of being too attached with celebrities. I Admit duna man sab akoy mga gina follow and gina looked up to nga mga personality but not to the extent nga affected na ang akong life. We need to set boundaries and self-control coz if not we will be ruled with nonsense.

Just sharing this to my fellow teens nga it’s all promotional. To make their names in the charts para hisgutan. It’s their personal life nga dili angay panghimasukan. Dili na kini bago sa industriya and it’s been there ever since kaniadto pa. Wala nako gitugot akong kaugalingon nga ma apektohan instead I consider it as a lesson sa kadaghanan nga no matter how long ang usa ka relasyon it will turn everything to rubbles. All the years spent together turns to ruin.

Relationship should be accompanied with GOD’s presence. God’s LOVE aron nga mulungtad kini sa kahangturan.

What else do we need to do to have an everlasting relationship? For the benefit and knowledge of those in the relationship.

Thank you po.
Jelai

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Dear Jelai,

Murag updated gyud ka sa mundo sa mga artista! Yes, talk of the town and hiwalayan ng mga popular love teams on the screen and long lovers in real life.

It is a reality nga ang mga young people, teenagers especially, kusog kaayo ang role modeling. Nangita na sila og someone to emulate or look up to. Naa pud koy kaila nga masyado gyud gina idolize ang usa ka artista to the point nga ang style sa damit, ang bath soap, ang soft drink, ang vitamins nga gina indorse ani sa advertisement mao sab ang iyang ginagamit! Updated siya sa mga lihok/activities ng mga gina idolize niya! You see, daku gyud ang influence nila sa mga young people. Mao nga usahay ang private life sa mga gina idolize nila, dili na private. Well, it is good that on your part, you have set boundaries, ug dili gyud nimo gitugutan nga maapektuhan ang imong personal nga kinabuhi. Kudos to you on this aspect.

Your concern is about issues on HIWALAYAN. Matud pa nimo, “no matter how long ang usa ka relasyon, it will turn everything to rubbles. All the years together turn to ruin.” I beg to disagree on these statements tungod kay naa pud mga relasyon nga nagalahutay. Atong hinumduman nga ang tao DYNAMIC, they don’t stay the way they were yesterday. Each day brings new experiences and as they grow in years, they also grow in their way of looking at things. People change, they bloom and grow. And sometimes part of that growth is the realization that the relationship needs to end. Mao kini ang masulti nato nga pinagtagpo, nagkaroon ng relasyon for many years, and yet, hindi tinadhana!

Hindi natin alam kung ano talaga ang pinagdaanan nga mga nagmamahalan. Remember, every relationship is always subjected to trials, struggles and challenges. Pero no matter how seemingly the relationship fails, di natin ito ma consider that these lovers are failures. Naa gyud na mga lessons sa kinabuhi nga ilang nakat-unan and will bring these lessons in their future relationships. On the other hand, those relationships that last may have stood the test of time, maybe they refused to give up on each other, maybe they chose to love each other more, instead of leave each other… and may have found ways to start anew after mistakes and shortcomings or even temptations on fidelity come their way. Mao nga dili gyud kita maka conclude that “no matter how long the relationship, it will turn into rubbles or will end sa hiwalayan.

Sa laing bahin, naa sab kamatuoran ang imong observation nga usahay for promotional purposes sab ang pagiging sensational ng mga HIWALAYAN news. Mao nga kinahanglan pud magiging vigilant ang mga young people because, just like you, meron tendency to have a negative outlook about relationships. And that ayaw na lang nila mag invest sa relationship because just the same, hahantong din a hiwalayan. Hence, magkaroon sila ng trust issues dahil sa kanilang nakikita sa mga idols nila. However, please remember, any relationship involves risk, trust, openness and work. Yes, relationship is a teamwork, between and among those involved.

You hit it right, above all, there must be God at the center of the relationship. However, there should also be openness to the plan of God. Remember, God’s ways are not our ways. Most importantly, LOVE must be bigger than the trials and challenges of the relationship. And remember, too, that God is LOVE!

What else do we need to have an everlasting relationship? GOD ALONE SUFFICES! Prayers, open communication, trust and the decision to LOVE and do loving actions in spite of the trials and struggles. And pains, sacrifices become a pleasure if you do it for someone you choose to love in spite of the shortcomings and flaws of each one.

God bless us more.
Ate Emz