Relasyong basehan si baby?

Dear KNOT,

Bata pa lang ako ay wala na si nanay. Si tatay nalang at mga kapatid ko ang aking naging kasama. Dahil nga di kami mayaman, ginawa ko na ang lahat para makapag-aral. Ako ang bunso sa anim na magkakapatid, pero di kagaya ng ibang bunso na komportable ang buhay, sa akin naman ay iba. Sa akin pa nga sila humihingi ng panggastos sa bahay.

Naging active ako sa youth ministry, naging youth leader, hanggang sa pumasok ako sa seminary. Ang dami kong krisis sa buhay, kaya labas-pasok ako sa iba’t ibang kongregasyon. Naiisip ko kasi ang kalagayan ni tatay. Complicated na ang kanayang sakit.

Kapag nagtrabaho naman ako, hindi ako makatagal sa aking workplace kasi very ideal daw ako as prefect of discipline.

Umalis ako sa church ministry, at tuluyan nang nalihis ng landas. Hanggang sa nakabuntis ako ng wala sa oras. Ang masakit pa nito, may malalang sakit ang aking anak paglabas niya. Walong buwan kaming pabalik-balik sa ospital. Nakahingi na ako ng tulong sa lahat ng aking kapamilya at kaibigan, kahit panggatas, hiningi ko na rin dahil umabot ng P500,000 ang babayaran namin sa ospital.

Namatay ang aking anak noong nagdaang buwan. Kami naman ng gf ay naguguluhan na kung ipagpatuloy pa ba namin ang aming relasyon, ngayong wala na si baby.

Ako ay nalilito at para sa akin, masyado nang mabigat ang krus na aking natanggap.

Nagmamahal,

Erik

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Dear Erik,

Life is a journey and a constant search for what is really the life meant for us. Everything we experience or people we meet are all meant to help us find ourselves and help us grow to become better persons and useful citizens of the world. Sometimes the road may be rugged or zigzag, or smooth highways, rocky, slippery, etc… and yet in each path are learning opportunities. We either take them as challenges to surmount or crosses to weigh us down. I believe your experiences have made you a stronger person, able to go through those difficulties. Your child’s condition (may he/she rest in peace) has opened doors to humbling experiences of seeking help from family and friends. Thank God for these acquired virtues.

Will you continue to stay with each other, decide to love each other after your baby is gone? Is the child the only reason for sticking it out with each other? There are other reasons for life together to still be more meaningful and grace-filled. Kung “nalihis” ang iyong landas noon, now is the time to MAKE IT RIGHT. Living in is never right and you know it. Marriage, being a Sacrament is a source of grace. God will dwell in your house and will shower it with abundant graces for you to be able to carry your daily crosses with patience and love. Life is not only a sorrowful mystery; but joyful, glorious and mystery of light as well. You will never be alone because He will always be there for you. He is just a prayer away.

God bless you.

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